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Posted by: Miss Dippy Jun 24 2008, 06:24 AM
when a friend asks you if they should have an abortion or not maryluvs_sigh.gif

the thing is she's in a shit relationship and they keep makeing up and breaking up all the time maryluvs_rolleyes0.gif .... i told her she was stupid to get pregnant by him in the first place, but the baby is there now and she is so confused , what do i say or do?

realisticaly , it would be wise if she aborted , but if they get back together and she keeps the baby, i would feel so guilty looking at that babies eyes and thinking that i once told her to abort it maryluvs_sigh.gif !

what would y'all do!

PS: i have said i don't want to be involved , but she really is so so confused maryluvs_sad.gif

Posted by: Mary Poppins Jun 24 2008, 11:06 AM
I once told a friend to abort her baby but it was only out of love and trying to watch out for her. In retrospect, I would do it all again. She's in a better position in life now and I'm doubtful that she would be where is now if she had had the baby. Besides, she was only trying to keep the baby to hold on to this dude she was fucking. They weren't in a real relationship. She was merely a jumpoff.

Posted by: Josh Jun 24 2008, 12:21 PM
Dippy in your place I would just explain your reasonings to her and say no "yes" or "no". She got to decide herself.

Posted by: No One Will Do Jun 24 2008, 12:46 PM
Awww..Dippy so sorry you and your friend going through such trials of course for different reasons. maryluvs_sad.gif

I had a friend going through that issue a while back. A group of us just decided to put our personal feelings aside, we first let her know that we support her regardless of what she decided. We then went on to help her to sort her feelings about herself, her life, and the baby. We made a list of pros and cons with her approval and acknowledgement. This process was about a week she eventually decided to go ahead with the abortion but it was important to us that it was her decision and we wouldn't judge her either way; we just wanted her to know that she was our friend and we loved her.

Hope this helps sweetie it's hard I know..((hugs)) maryluvs_kissbye.gif

Posted by: Josh Jun 24 2008, 03:04 PM
QUOTE (Padmé Amidala @ Jun 24 2008, 07:46 PM)
Awww..Dippy so sorry you and your friend going through such trials of course for different reasons. maryluvs_sad.gif

I had a friend going through that issue a while back. A group of us just decided to put our personal feelings aside, we first let her know that we support her regardless of what she decided. We then went on to help her to sort her feelings about herself, her life, and the baby. We made a list of pros and cons with her approval and acknowledgement. This process was about a week she eventually decided to go ahead with the abortion but it was important to us that it was her decision and we wouldn't judge her either way; we just wanted her to know that she was our friend and we loved her.

Hope this helps sweetie it's hard I know..((hugs)) maryluvs_kissbye.gif

maryluvs_clapping.gif maryluvs_clapping.gif This is basically what I said. You just made it longer maryluvs_thumbup.gif

Posted by: No One Will Do Jun 24 2008, 03:35 PM
QUOTE (Josh @ Jun 24 2008, 02:04 PM)
QUOTE (Padmé Amidala @ Jun 24 2008, 07:46 PM)
Awww..Dippy so sorry you and your friend going through such trials of course for different reasons. maryluvs_sad.gif

I had a friend going through that issue a while back. A group of us just decided to put our personal feelings aside, we first let her know that we support her regardless of what she decided. We then went on to help her to sort her feelings about herself, her life, and the baby. We made a list of pros and cons with her approval and acknowledgement. This process was about a week she eventually decided to go ahead with the abortion but it was important to us that it was her decision and we wouldn't judge her either way; we just wanted her to know that she was our friend and we loved her.

Hope this helps sweetie it's hard I know..((hugs)) maryluvs_kissbye.gif

maryluvs_clapping.gif maryluvs_clapping.gif This is basically what I said. You just made it longer maryluvs_thumbup.gif

yeah...I kinda thought that when I read yours... maryluvs_giggle.gif BUT since I had a specific incident I was referring too I decided to expand...smooches maryluvs_laughing.gif maryluvs_giggle.gif

Posted by: Miss Dippy Jun 25 2008, 09:02 AM
QUOTE (Padmé Amidala @ Jun 24 2008, 07:35 PM)
QUOTE (Josh @ Jun 24 2008, 02:04 PM)
QUOTE (Padmé Amidala @ Jun 24 2008, 07:46 PM)
Awww..Dippy so sorry you and your friend going through such trials of course for different reasons. maryluvs_sad.gif

I had a friend going through that issue a while back. A group of us just decided to put our personal feelings aside, we first let her know that we support her regardless of what she decided. We then went on to help her to sort her feelings about herself, her life, and the baby. We made a list of pros and cons with her approval and acknowledgement. This process was about a week she eventually decided to go ahead with the abortion but it was important to us that it was her decision and we wouldn't judge her either way; we just wanted her to know that she was our friend and we loved her.

Hope this helps sweetie it's hard I know..((hugs)) maryluvs_kissbye.gif

maryluvs_clapping.gif maryluvs_clapping.gif This is basically what I said. You just made it longer maryluvs_thumbup.gif

yeah...I kinda thought that when I read yours... maryluvs_giggle.gif BUT since I had a specific incident I was referring too I decided to expand...smooches maryluvs_laughing.gif maryluvs_giggle.gif

wub.gif wub.gif wub.gif awww thanks girls ... and Joshy wub.gif

she's comeing over to mine for tea, so will sit down and do what you said Kiki maryluvs_jashug.gif

Posted by: No One Will Do Jun 28 2008, 12:20 AM
QUOTE (Miss Dippy @ Jun 25 2008, 08:02 AM)
QUOTE (Padmé Amidala @ Jun 24 2008, 07:35 PM)
QUOTE (Josh @ Jun 24 2008, 02:04 PM)
QUOTE (Padmé Amidala @ Jun 24 2008, 07:46 PM)
Awww..Dippy so sorry you and your friend going through such trials of course for different reasons. maryluvs_sad.gif

I had a friend going through that issue a while back. A group of us just decided to put our personal feelings aside, we first let her know that we support her regardless of what she decided. We then went on to help her to sort her feelings about herself, her life, and the baby. We made a list of pros and cons with her approval and acknowledgement. This process was about a week she eventually decided to go ahead with the abortion but it was important to us that it was her decision and we wouldn't judge her either way; we just wanted her to know that she was our friend and we loved her.

Hope this helps sweetie it's hard I know..((hugs)) maryluvs_kissbye.gif

maryluvs_clapping.gif maryluvs_clapping.gif This is basically what I said. You just made it longer maryluvs_thumbup.gif

yeah...I kinda thought that when I read yours... maryluvs_giggle.gif BUT since I had a specific incident I was referring too I decided to expand...smooches maryluvs_laughing.gif maryluvs_giggle.gif

wub.gif wub.gif wub.gif awww thanks girls ... and Joshy wub.gif

she's comeing over to mine for tea, so will sit down and do what you said Kiki maryluvs_jashug.gif

maryluvs_clapping.gif ooh lovely, I absolutely love tea with tea cakes and/or scones. I know the conversation might seem difficult and awkward but use your heart and I'm sure you'll be fine.. wub.gif maryluvs_jashug.gif

Posted by: Layla Jul 7 2008, 01:52 PM
I wouldn't give my opinion one way or the other. I would let my friend make the decision ultimately on her own. From there whatever she chooses to do, I would make sure to be supportive of my friend.

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